This is a no-brainer.
If you ever spend time with someone, try to be more self-aware. Are you unable to find the strength with which you can easily be yourself without any hint of backlash or judgment or criticism from this person? Do you find yourself spending energy in trying to maintain good relations with this person? Why?
Because I’m close to this person.
Because he’s my closest friend.
Because he’s my only cousin.
Because she’s my only sister.
No. It’s because you’re too afraid to let go. You’re too afraid to lose attachment to these people. You’re too afraid to be an outcast. You like being comfortable with things and people you know and trust. You don’t want to find out what’s on the other side as soon as you make the choice to leave them behind and start afresh. Well, hate to break it to you, you won’t ever succeed like that. The most successful people this planet has ever given birth to took a lot of bold chances in their lives to make great things happen. And that includes breaking precious relationships in relentless pursuit of their ultimate goals.
I made a friend back in high school sophomore year. We became best friends for the remainder of our school times. We kept in touch after we went our separate ways. But things began to roll downhill from there. He saw how successful I was in my college years. He grew to resent me, but didn’t show it over night. It was a long, dragging gradual process.
He was selfish, narcissistic, and a loser who spent 99% of his time on social media, not getting anything done with his life but party every week. He continued to go to college for 7 years without being able to get a full-time job. He got fired multiple times for being a slob. One good thing about him was that he had commitment to build a decent body, but that’s it. He got satisfied with his okay body, but never committed to lift bigger and to dream bigger. I gave him many chances, but every time spent with him was every bit of energy taken away from me. I knew that he wanted to remain friends, but as much as it pained me to break contact with him, I trusted my gut instincts and dropped him from my life.
You don’t need these people in your life to survive. You can handle on your own perfectly fine. What’s the use in keeping these losers in your life when you have a dream to realize? They will never change, and spending time with them will only drag you down to their level.
Be on your own. You know what’s best for yourself. Cut out social media.
Remember: a leader is someone who takes action necessary to achieve and conquer. You don’t have to be a leader of a nation or some stupid cult leader to know that. All it takes is the willingness fueled by desire to lead your own life, to ruthlessly chase after your ultimate goals, to visualize yourself in your race to the apex of your life — the ultimate potential inside you.
Cutting attachment to things and toxic people… will turn out for the better.
From your man,